An Introvert Starting the Year Being Social

As I am coming up on 2 years on the road, one thing continues to amaze me – the community of like-minded RV nomads that are cruising the roads of America. I literally had no idea how large, and close-knit, of a group this was. It’s mind-blowing, surreal, incredible, and all other kinds of superlatives. Seriously.

In my first 30-days of being on the road, I wrote about the community I had found so far. Nothing has changed, it has only gotten better. I literally have more friends – GOOD friends – now than I have ever had in my entire life. No joke. And it’s very comforting.

It can also be very overwhelming for an introverted person (which most full-time RVers seem to be). And I am introverted. Not as much as I once was, only because I made a choice to be more outgoing instead of withdrawing into a shell. Several people have thought I am full of BS when I tell them I am introverted, so I guess my evil plan of coming across otherwise is working. But deep down I am shy. Sometimes socially awkward (but getting MUCH better at this). And often just want to chill by myself.

So this brings me to my current situation. I have completed 4 weeks of being social. Not just semi-social, hey let’s get together every Friday for drinks. No, since just after Christmas I have been in a whirlwind of socialness. About a week in Anza for New Year’s. Two weeks outside of Yuma with an American Girl. And I just finished the first week at my current location in the Arizona desert south of Quartzsite.

It’s been both energizing and exhausting. Overwhelming at times, yet comforting. Something that I have needed very much in 2016, so it’s a good thing that I have found myself in this situation. The comforting part. Not the overwhelming bit. I mean, who likes to be overwhelmed?

I got to a point where I felt I was socially worn out. I was tired of doing something every day with others. I felt like I needed to get away and planned to do so today. Then I gave myself a reality check. A couple of things dawned on me. I want to slow down in 2016 so hauling ass out of here after a single week went against this desire. And I needed to embrace the community around me, not run away from it.

My mom put it perfectly when I mentioned to her I was thinking of staying longer:

“I say stay put until you don’t like it any more. That way you don’t regret moving for the sake of moving.”

So I am staying put. Not moving from the general area until I feel like I want to. I have no real plans, so I don’t have to be somewhere on a certain date, and this is an incredibly liberating feeling.

I no longer feel socialed out. I’m 100 yards from my nearest neighbor and I can participate in activities as I see fit, or I can be a hermit. But my community is close by and I like that. A lot!

6 thoughts on “An Introvert Starting the Year Being Social

  1. I so understand the overwhelming part and at the same time, not wanting to miss out. We find a week of quiet in between all the socializing is good for the soul. Enjoy the relaxed pace!

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    • I’ve decided that since I am a bit aways from everyone else I can moderate my social activity and recharge while still being here. Let’s see how successful that is. So far, so good!

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  2. We are still just part-time but we’ve met, hiked and hung out with a number of full-timers. We had this same conversation. We enjoy the RV blogging community, yet a big draw for hitting the road FT is getting away and being alone in the wilderness. Getting away from the obligations of life and exploring! This nomadic community feels like the best of both worlds. Thank you for sharing!

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    • Thanks for reading, Karen! Yes, the nomadic community is a special one. They don’t mind the introverted (as most of them are) and let you be as social, or withdrawn, as you wish. Really a GREAT group of people! 🙂

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